I’m sure everyone is tired of me ranting about my New Year ponderings. I’m sorry (not sorry) but I can’t seem to stop. I’m going to end all my rants with a final post about what I learned in 2017. I would just keep it to myself if I didn’t think it could help anyone.
What did 2017 teach me?
- The number of people you get along with will drastically increase when you realize that not everyone believes what you do, thinks like you do, and does what you would do; and it does not make them wrong or bad people.
- You do not have to respond to everything and you do not always have to have the last word. Let the other person “win”. Let them say the last nastiest thing. Your blood will boil then, but later on you will look unbothered while the other person looks like a psychopath.
- To be conscious of how I’m feeling each moment. I notice when I’m sad, I think about why I’m sad. Instead of trying to change how I feel, I just let myself be sad. Cry if you need to, take a nap, listen to sad songs, it’s fine. As long as you know that someday you WILL be happy again, you are fine. You’ll also be angry sometimes, you’ll be sad about something another 1,000 times. Feelings are temporary and they come and go. You probably don’t need to do any fixing until certain feelings stay without subsiding for a long time. Everything else: let it happen. Don’t try to ignore, take your mind off, or change anything. You have feelings for a reason. Feel them while also knowing that they are temporary.
- How to search my thoughts and decide whether or not I’m being extra emotional or if I have a valid reason to feel the way I do.
- Even when you are coming from a place of love, people will never grow up just because you’re telling them they need to. They won’t stop using those drugs, they won’t stop cheating on their significant other, they won’t be a better parent, they won’t be a kinder person, they will not change until they reach the point where they are mentally capable of maturing and wanting to change bad enough. Nothing you say can make them do it. You must leave them or love them through it, you might even find that sometimes you have to do both.
- I may not be the greatest person but I’m not so bad to where I deserve to be in a bad relationship. I woke up and realized I have a lot to offer. Some guy would be BLESSED to have me in their life so now I going to give the depths of myself to someone deserving. Once you acquire strength and a little self esteem, you won’t let another man bring you down and even if you do, you’ll be strong enough to leave.
What did you learn in 2017? How did you change?
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